To those out there who think that being a stay@home mom is sitting around at home doing nothing, you are ill-informed and sadly mistaken. Some of you need to be slapped. Like, in the face. Really hard. But that’s just my tired-mom-side speaking – so don’t be offended! Have you seen the movie “what to expect when you’re expecting?” There’s this really funny part in the film where Elizabeth Banks’s character has a bit of a meltdown on stage during a presentation and also during the last stretch of her pregnancy (alongside Fat Amy) Very honest and very funny.
Us girls. We do NOT want to dwell on the bits that get us down, please don’t get me wrong, but we also want to let our hair down at times and just call things as they seem to be at the time (a.k.a blowing off some steam!).
A Few things I’ve learnt during my time at home with the children is:
Network isn’t the thing, it is everything! If you don’t have a network of like-minded people loving and supporting you or helping you out when chaos hits, you’ll burn out reeeaal quick! For me, sometimes just KNOWING someone is there for me keeps me going. Just an encouraging message of support or a hug from a friend or family member gives me hope and motivation, but we also need those little recharging visits. Girl talks. Lots of laughing and maybe a few tears. We’re just wired that way. (We also need about a week of spa treatments and sleep. Basic things I tell you!)
Date night. Really important. If you don’t have someone to watch the kids, wait till they are asleep! Special occasions are not exclusive to going out, although this is a better option and lots of fun - quality time spent at home with your spouse, while the little ones are in lah-lah-land, also nurtures the relationship.
Some moms have asked me, “doesn’t it make you crazy being at home... with your kids... all the time?” The answer is: no, it does not make me crazy. I am already crazy! That’s how I survive! Thanks to the wisdom of SEAL. (There is really no such thing as normal – that’s just a setting on your washing machine.)
All jokes aside: Spending time with God, my faith in Him, wonderful husband, caring family and friends – a.k.a the village – is the way I hit each day, enjoying and sowing, cultivating and nurturing my little people.
Here’s a few fun-time pics / moments we’ve enjoyed together outside - just allowing them to be little. The tantrum-screaming, paralyzing self-doubt, imperfect photos were accidentally deleted...if you catch my drift. :) iskra x